Your personal value and belief system is quite complex and has been formed very early in life through the culture/society we come from as well as one’s family and historical environment. People sometimes say my values have changed but this is not true. It just might seem at times as if some are more important than others because of changes in life’s circumstances.
This internal value system influences our thoughts, feelings, and actions. Your values are your guiding lights and drivers. You use your value system to measure or judge your level of success, fulfillment and happiness.
Your value and belief system is totally unique. I call it your subconscious thumbprint.
I take clients through a process of several weeks to take this from the subconscious to their conscious awareness by:
1. Determining what 12 values are really important to them.
2. Working out how they have prioritized them
3. What is their belief behind each value
4. What is their internal paradigm/structure
I have some very clever clients. Look at this a client created recently going through the process. Description below the image.
Netball in this diagram represents the game of life and the importance of my value system.
Team A = Players represent my most important values
Team B = Players represent my other extremely important values
The players and their opponents on court are grouped by positions. These players and what they represent go hand in hand. E.g. GS for Team A (Orange) represents Integrity whilst her opponent GK for Team B (Purple) represents Trust. With my values, I believe Integrity and Trust work hand in hand with each other. Likewise with all of the other positions on court I believe the grouping or pairing work insync with each other.
As for the umpires they are the ones who control the game. They represent similar values that are required to keep players on track and following the rules (my values) by providing Security – an assurance to all players that the umpire will be in control of the game at all times, ensure everyone is safe and the rules are followed. Along with this the other umpire who is just as significant represents Fairness. Fairness in the calls (decisions) that are made for both teams and that all players are treated with respect and equality.
Whilst there are two individual teams on court as opponents (Team A & Team B), netball does not exist unless both teams are present and strive to do their best. Both teams own aim is to score the most goals and win. All players in both teams and umpires are essential to play netball – the game of life. During the game every player will achieve successes and disappointments. They will come across distractions, triumphs, hurdles, achievements and challenges, just like in life. These challenges often result from the defensive positions of the opponents in netball (E.g. GK, GD, WD & the defensive C) and every players aim is to get past that defence by attacking and score that goal. It’s a constant work in progress where the ball can often travel up and down the court to each extreme end, numerous times, before a goal is scored. There can also be many mid-court battles. That said every competitor is at times playing the role of attacker or defender. And every player, in both teams, are integral participants in the game of life.
My diagram also displays a message ‘By Giving – Everyone – Wins’ which to me is explained by looking at the court and players and the values they represent from left to right. In the first third titled ‘By Giving’, I believe that if I and all others give integrity, trust, respect, consideration, empathy and gratitude to those in their life then one and all can progress into the central part of the game. The mid-court. This is where ‘Everyone’ including myself can receive the loving and caring that all deserve. From the mid-court you progress down the court to the third represented by ‘Wins’. This last third is where everyone ‘Wins’- it’s my positivity third. Where the players represent and receive motivation, organisation, positivity, humour and the ultimate prize – both harmony and peace. Therefore in playing netball by my values you will see that ‘By giving everyone wins’.